I have been that girl.

[grzywacz]

I have been that girl. Giving free pussy to some guy, telling myself that it is my idea, too, because the sex is good. Looking for clues and signs that he is "falling" for me. Foolish, foolish girl. That is not at all how it works.

[baynham]

It is good that you learned Men do not fall in love over sex.

[bracamonte]

They do sometimes for sure, but not when they are stringing along a woman they don't give a shit about, and feeding her just enough lies to maintain access to her body.

[Matti]

I can't see it ever being because of sex Spending time together, sure, but men do not have that physical bonding reaction to sex.

[gibbard]

You are theorizing again

[marcus]

I'm always theorizing but I have read about this subject, and I also don't see that being possible for me. Love is deep in the mind, not physical.

[delisle]

Dude... Love is all over -- head, hand, AND heart.

[naish]

sex is also deep in the mind The problem with your theories are the big holes that are the information that you don't have, that you figure therefore don't exist.

[fierstein]

So keep doing that then have sex with men and expect them to fall in love with you. Playboys wouldn't exist if it worked that way.

[lebo]

Not what I said at all. You are so far off base that I can not even have a discussion with you. You are too obtuse. /talking to you

[semmler]

^doesn't

[wardlaw]

He does rather have a way of tailoring his model of the world to suit his personal preferences, no?

[noble]

To an extremely larger extent than most people do.

[everett]

I don't see a lot of inconsistency. The behavior fits the models, so I stick with it.

[Robby]

AMEN, sister!

[corn]

what do you do now that's different from before?

[Christiana]

I recognize the reality of a situation and expect more for/from myself.

[kazda]

so you are seeing a guy you like him and he likes you. how do you develop a ltr with him?

[eolande]

By his actions and mine Respect, honesty. Not bs-ing myself, basiy. One of the biggest reasons women do this, IMO, is to protect themselves from the reality of a genuine relationship. When you are always the one pining or wishing, then you have no actual skin in the game. If that guy actually stopped and faced her and wanted to be with her x%, she more often than not would run screaming. They also do it sometimes because it replays over and over the situation they have with an abusive, emotionally out of reach, or abandoning father.